Do you know how to accept love?

 

You probably have no problem giving love to those around you; it is very easy for us to give love, especially to those we care about.

 

Think about it. When someone asks for our help, we give it without a second thought. I think, as a general rule, we all have the ability to give, and to give graciously.  Of course I am generalizing here, but you get the picture.

 

So, it goes without saying that those who give the most end up feeling they are unworthy to receive. And this is not even something you would stop to think about.

 

But stop and think about it for just a second. Ask yourself if you deem yourself worthy of receiving love, if you deserve to receive love, and, most especially, if you understand what it feels like to accept love from others.

 

Need validation? Stand with your arms on your side and relax.  Facing north will help, but not necessary. Say out loud: “Body, show me yes.” Notice that your body will move forward without any effort on your part.

 

Then follow it up with: “Body show me no.” Your body will now lean back, again without any effort. This is kinesiology or muscle testing. We use this to test for subconscious beliefs.

 

Now that you know how to test for your subconscious beliefs, try testing for your beliefs regarding receiving and accepting love.

 

Say the following out loud:

“I give love easily and effortlessly to others.”

 

“I know how to give love to others.”

 

“I know how to accept love from others.”

 

“I understand what it feels like to accept love from others.”

 

“I deserve to be loved.”

 

“I deserve to receive love.”

 

If you test yes to being able to give and receive love, then congratulations, because you have learned how to love and be loved, and chances are you already have a healthy relationship with yourself.

 

If you test no to being able to accept love from others, chances are you are also testing negatively on being able to receive love from others.

 

But if you are testing positive or yes to being able to give love, then at least you know where to begin working on yourself.

 

Awareness and intention

 

Through awareness and intention, you can reverse your worthiness to receive and accept love by consciously observing yourself. Every day, in any small way, allow yourself to receive compliments and kind gestures, and allow yourself to be helped by others.  Life is a balance of giving and receiving. Be mindful of your thoughts, actions and reactions.

 

We sometimes reject help or never even ask for it because we see it as a sign of vulnerability and weakness. We do not say thank you and receive compliments graciously because we feel we are good and humble by putting ourselves down.

 

See how you react when someone tells you that you look good. If you answer in the negative, you are in fact rejecting the compliment. A gracious “thank you” is enough to get you accustomed to receiving kindness, praise and positive feedback.

 

Remember that it is just as important be able to receive love from others as it is to give love. You can truly love yourself and others completely when you learn how to fully receive and accept love completely.

 

You deserve to be loved. This is what enables us to be fully human, fully alive and fully conscious of ourselves and others. Oneness is no longer a concept; it becomes your reality.