Emily’s Post

She had unprotected sex and fears she’s caught an STD

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DEAR EMILY,

I am in my late 30s, still single and with no kids. I’ve only had two serious relationships that lasted six and nine months, respectively. I date once in a while and met this guy my age in April.  It was spur of the moment but I gave him my number.  I knew from the start that he’s not the serious kind.   I don’t even know his status.   I rejected him initially, but his persistence in sending me text messages made me go out with him on a date, and eventually we had sex. I could not resist him, not because I love him, but because I felt that I was already trapped in this kind of situation and had hoped that this will be it.   Two months later, his wife learned about the affair and I ended it, which he willingly accepted.

One day I started to feel that something was wrong in my body.  I searched the Internet for the symptoms that I was experiencing and found out I had an STD. It’s been four months now and the symptoms are getting worse every day. I’ve already lost five pounds from stress, anxiety and depression.  My personal and working relationships are also affected.  Every day is a struggle. I have not undergone any medical tests because I’m so afraid to face the truth.  I don’t know what to do.

I called him about it and he claims he’s clean.  He said he doesn’t have any symptoms, and neither does his wife and six-month-old baby.   But he was the only one I had unprotected sex with.  I am so very, very, very STUPID that I did not think about STD, HIV, AIDS when I was with him. He is full of lies.  Is this my karma?   I’m planning to resign from work. I wish I could die at this moment.  I am asking for a miracle. I hope it is not too late.

LADY IN PINK

All your hair-pulling, unmitigated stress and unbearable regret can all be solved once and for all by seeing a doctor right away! Like immediately? You cannot allow the information you’ve downloaded from the Internet to take over your mind and go haywire thinking of every unthinkable scenario!  Get it over and done with.

Everyone makes mistakes—great and small—and you’re no exception.  You don’t have to tell anyone about your predicament, real or imagined at this time. You’re not actually carrying any communicable disease because HIV/AIDS cannot be transmitted just by shaking hands or kissing—unless you intend to venture into unprotected sex again.

Do yourself a favor by righting something that could go horribly wrong if left unattended.  Most of all, be gentle with yourself.  No use crying over the past. There’s no sense in concocting a drama which may not even be there. Life is already difficult without compounding it with runaway thoughts.

E-mail emarcelo@inquirer.com.ph or emarcelo629@gmail.com. Do listen to my podcast at http://kalikasanvigilante.blogspot.com

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  • http://profile.yahoo.com/BV6DWTSUHKJGFANJJ5P3WPPTQM Paul

      “But he was the only one I had unprotected sex with.” it does not necessarily mean that he is the cause of your sickness nor it does not guarantee that your previous sexual encounters were not the cause of your “sickness”.

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/OZO6BF2SRYYFAPEJJRGSNUEGKY crab

    well, probably nabuntis ka, hehe

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/LJVSZRQ7PBVINM5F6LL2HRURKA Rinaanir

    HAHAHAHAHA + HAHAHAHAHAHA – HAHAHAHAHAHA x HAHAHAHAHAHA = HAHAHAHAHA!!!!

  • Mananandata69

    wala yan bulati lang yan. Mag combatrine ka

  • henry21

    best move is to see a doctor to know if you have STD or something else and have it cured the earliest possible time.

  • AllaMo

    I like your convoluted logic to get sex. Present me with a clean bill of health. And, I will rock your world.

  • mm49

    get yourself checked girl, asap. as the others said, no use getting all depressed and suicidal over something that you haven’t confirmed yet. baka mamaya wala ka pala talagang STD and you’re just experiencing psychosomatic symptoms because of your guilt over an affair with a married man, loneliness, etcetera etcetera.

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     my facebook accnt same in my yahoo accnt. immdtly message me.

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