You?re only 28?take them all and ride with the tide
DEAR EMILY,
I am 28 years old and had a boyfriend of eight years. Unbeknownst to me, my boyfriend at the time had another girlfriend, whom he even got pregnant. In those eight years, he had introduced me to his family, so I thought I was the official girlfriend and the pregnant girl was an aside. However, I never felt he was mine because he was not available most of the time. I fooled myself into believing he would leave her eventually and choose me in the end. They are still together today.
I was able to move on only when I worked abroad. I met someone there who looked like my first boyfriend, and, unfortunately, he was already taken as well. But that didn?t stop us. He gave me the attention I wanted, and more. We came back home and he broke up with his girlfriend. Everything was sweet until he left me after three months of living together. He needed to ?find himself,? he said. I am heartbroken and my spirit is crushed. What?s wrong with me? I come from a good family and my friends say those two guys don?t deserve me. I feel I?ve wasted my best years with them and now I am afraid of being alone. I am now practically begging for another chance with the second guy.
LONELY HEART
Please don?t beg?not if you want others to make a doormat of your self-respect. That is a no-no!
So you?ve been dropped by two men. Big deal! It?s not like everyone has left and gone to the moon. They may not even be worth the salt in your tears!
Why not put your trust in fate, which may have been protecting you from further disappointments by kicking these heartbreakers from your life? There are so many things one cannot explain that are happening in life. Yet, like a jigsaw puzzle, everything falls in its proper place and begins to feel right?eventually.
You?ll probably meet some more jerks and you?ll probably have your heart broken all over again in the near future. There?ll be a lot of bitterness and mind-blowing sweet moments, the peaks coming in the heels of the valleys. These and more will be taught to you over and over.
Consider these heartaches to be the foundation, the building blocks, that will reinforce and strengthen your character. Take them all and ride with the tide. There?s nothing like experiencing heartaches to the fullest? masochistic as it may sound!
It?s then that you will savor love at its sweetest when the right person comes along. You?re only 28, for heaven?s sake!
E-mail the author at emarcelo@inquirer.com.ph
