I recently received this e-mail from a man we shall call Romeo:
“I am a follower of your column, and I have decided to bring up this matter with you.
“Life has never been the same for me since I made some kind of mystical connection with a woman 30 years younger than I. I call it mystical, since I have had at least four intense telepathic connections with her, on one occasion feeling her being very sick, and the other with her heading into a crisis.
“I actually tried to avoid this woman after meeting her for the first time, but something deep inside was telling me to see her, which I did. Each meeting was filled with wonderful times together and a lot of meaningful conversations.
“But the real pivotal meeting I had with her was on Valentine’s Day, when she shared what type of crisis she was undergoing. I felt then a deep worry that she was heading into danger, and if it were not for my timely advice, she would indeed have been pushed into danger.
“From then on, things went crazy, as more telepathic connections happened, like my feeling very weak because she was very sick. I tried to distance myself from her but to no avail, since I feel some kind of mystical pull toward her.
“The scary thing about this is this was not the first time I had a telepathic connection with her. We first met in January 2011, but along a road in Laguna, there was this spot where I picked up very strong positive vibes as early as 2008. I learned later that the area where I picked up those wonderful vibes was near her hometown, where she has lived since childhood, and where she usually goes home during her breaks from work in Metro Manila.
“Although there is a romantic pull between the two of us, the reality is I am committed, and have resigned myself to the fact that, one day, I have to part with this woman.
“Please tell me, what is this woman to me? A soulmate or a twin soul? I sometimes wished that she was only a soulmate from the past, with whom I will have a permanent telepathic disconnection in the future after we part ways.
“But admittedly, I find it very hard to severe whatever romantic or friendly ties I have with her. The intensity of my connection with her cannot be denied, and I just cannot leave her like other women I had loved before.”
You are certainly not alone. I very often receive similar queries, but mostly from women.
Let me make one thing very clear. Strong attraction alone for another person does not mean he or she is one’s soulmate. There are definite indicators or characteristics of soulmate encounters which I discuss fully in my book, “Soulmates, Karma & Reincarnation.”
At best I would say that this woman is a karmic partner of yours. A karmic partner is one with whom you had a strong karmic relationship or link in a past life or several lifetimes. You have to meet again in the present life to work out your karmic obligations to each other.
Everyone you meet in a meaningful manner is someone you have met before in your past incarnations. We seldom meet a person by accident, because our souls never forget. All past relationships and all things we did in the past are recorded in our soul memory, in our subconscious mind.
Under special moments, such as in deep meditation or during hypnotic regression, such memories can be accessed or recalled. Sometimes we are given hints of such memories in our dreams or waking visions.
The fact that you are 30 years apart in physical age has no bearing on spiritual relationships. What is important is that you are the same soul age. In other words, you were on earth at the same time for the same number of times, although you may differ vastly in physical age. The same is true of soulmate encounters.
To know if that lady is your soulmate, the following factors must all be present at all times. If one is missing, she is not your soulmate, but could be a karmic partner.
First, there is a strong irresistible force that pulls you together, no matter where each of you is. When it is time for you to meet, you will meet.
Second, when you meet, there is absolute certainty that he or she is your perfect partner. There is soul recognition from the very first meeting. Please note that I am not referring to mental or emotional attraction. I am talking of something much deeper.
Third, the relationship is total, meaning that you are compatible in all the seven levels of your being, and not merely on two or three levels. That’s why soulmate encounters are very strong and very difficult to simply dismiss as infatuation.
Fourth, there is no feeling of guilt, no matter if society, religion, or race forbids it. When there is guilt, stop. That’s not a soulmate encounter. You will only suffer more if you continue this relationship.
Fifth, a true soulmate encounter is spiritually uplifting. It helps you to achieve a faster rate of soul evolution than what you would achieve otherwise. A soulmate is one who helps you attain perfection and union with God.
Much more is explained in my book and in my “Soulmates, Karma, & Reincarnation” seminar, which I will conduct on June 18 in Makati from 1 p.m. to 7 p.m. If you are interested to attend this, please call 8107245, 8159890 or 0920-9818962.