Dear Emily,
You had a story a year ago about the man whose girlfriend was a sugar baby he found hard to forgive. I’m an ex-sugar baby myself.
It started when I was 20 years old. I was in college and I almost dropped out because I couldn’t afford the tuition. A friend introduced me to a matchmaking website to find a sugar daddy.
I found one who was 69 at the time. He was very generous until I graduated. We only started having sex after I graduated from college. Our relationship went on for six years until he suddenly died of a heart attack.
I actually fell in love with him and it broke my heart when he died. Without his support, it was hard for me and my family.
I found another sugar daddy online. He was single. Like my first, he was very kind and generous. We even moved in together in a condo but after three years, he kicked me out for a much younger girl.
When I reached my 30s, I realized I couldn’t depend on sugar daddies anymore and gave up that lifestyle. I used my family as my excuse for a long time but the truth was, I was attracted to the expensive gifts and fancy dinners.
I’m now 38 years old with a husband and kids. I’m not living the rich and glamorous lifestyle but I’m happy and content. Being a sugar baby is just a fancy name for prostitution. —EX-SUGAR BABY
There is such a thing as redemption and second chances. And you’re living proof of that turnaround.
You got into the sugar-baby orbit with the excuses you spun—like wanting to help your family, wanting to finish school and various other wants that emboldened you to think they were important when you were young. But you stared at yourself in the mirror and admitted you were just being self-indulgent and refused to relinquish that good and decadent life because you already became an honest-to-goodness prostitute.
The truth gave you strength and fate did not disappoint when you were ready to shed it off. You met a man who, though not as rich as those in your past, had now given you a life worth living—kids and contentment. You cannot put a price on that. —CONTRIBUTED
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