Dear Emily,
My sister, her husband and their kid stay with me in my big house. I live alone and this is my way of helping them out.
My sister is unhappy in her sexless marriage, which she already left once before. For this reason, she has always been looking for Mr. Right. She dates guys, but they’ve always disappointed her. The last one was almost okay, but he had a violent history and that frightened her.
Now she is back with her husband. They stay together for their son. She hopes one day she will love him again, but she said she doesn’t feel anything for him anymore. I suggested she initiate the intimacy with him. Do they have a chance?
–Concerned Brother
If she is serious in repairing her marriage, she should try to be philosophical about it. It’s no joke when they say the brain is the largest sex organ in the body. If she just focuses on liking her husband again, she may reorient her mind to make it happen. Her problem is not insurmountable. Look at athletes, dreamers and disabled people. The focus of their minds propels them to succeed in their goals.
If she is truly sincere in rehabilitating her failed marriage, she can think of what made her fall in love with him before the marriage started to fail.
There must still be some salvageable memories about him to make her smile, perhaps? It couldn’t have all gone up in smoke without a trace!
She’s the master of her fate. If she can think it, she can do it. These clichés just mean, if there’s a will, there will always be a way!
emarcelo@inquirer.com,ph or emarcelo629@gmail.com