Internet sensation Xander Ford, who recently came out as bisexual, has made public the identity of his boyfriend through a post on his YouTube vlog yesterday, July 20.
In a Q&A type of program, he answered ten questions thrown their way. Ford was with his boyfriend during the entire show.
“I’m with my loved one. Hindi ko siya ipapakita sa inyo kasi medyo nahihiya pa ako. Private po ito, kung anuman ang meron. Siya na ‘yun,” he said, before introducing his invited hosts Mommy Kim Arda and And Miss Everything. Ford’s boyfriend, who was seated beside him, wore a mask.
(I will not show his face to you because I am a bit shy. This is private, whatever it is. He’s the one.)
The first question the couple was asked was who fell in love first.
“Hindi po ako,” Ford said. (Not me.)
“Ako po (It is I),” Ford’s boyfriend admitted, explaining they knew each other from way back. He narrated how they would converse, share things with each other, and give each other advice.
For the next question, the couple refused to answer, as it was about who is “top” and who is “bottom.”
“No comment po kami diyan. No comment, no comment,” came Ford’s reply.
When asked when their relationship started, the controversial singer revealed that they have been friends “since 2018.” He said that they have been chatting and have been close even then, though they have not yet met each other. By 2019, they finally met and got closer as friends, confiding to each other their own problems.
“Parang nagkapalagayan kami (ng loob) na dalawa. Noong nalaman niya na ganito ako, sabi niya sa akin, mas naiitindihan niya ako kaysa ‘yung ibang tao, sa dami ng tao na hindi ako naintindihan. So, ako, naniwala ako sa kanya,” Ford explained, apparently referring to his bisexuality.
(We became comfortable with each other. When he learned that this is how I am, he said he understood me, and that he did so better than others, out of all the people who do not understand me. So I believe him.)
“Kaya ‘yung sinasabi nila kung kailan naging kami, parang biglaan na lang po na naramdaman namin,” he added. (So as to the question of when we exactly became a couple, it just suddenly happened, we just felt it.)
As to who between them is more understanding, Ford said he’s the one, though he stressed that they both are, and that his boyfriend is actually intelligent.
Ford declined to reveal his boyfriend’s age but when queried if he already knew him before he (Ford) broke up with his girlfriend, Ford answered in the affirmative. He clarified though that even before he and his girlfriend got back together, he already knew the guy. He said his boyfriend, at that time, did not know about his bisexuality, but was still nonetheless very supportive of him emotionally. He said their friendship reminded him of who are the people who really matter.
When asked if Ford is really kind, his boyfriend said yes, and that he thinks Ford is simply misjudged by people who only see him on TV and in the movies.
The next question was “How did Ford become bisexual?” and to that, Ford answered that he never had a boyfriend in the past because he’s not gay.
“Straight po talaga ako,” he said, disclosing he had four girlfriends in the past. “Talagang hindi po ako na-attraact sa lalaki. Neto po lang, parang ngayon ko lang na-realize na eto, may naramdaman akong ganito, parang na-develop ako sa kapwa ko lalaki.
(I’m really straight. I was never attracted to guys. I just realized it now, that I have these feelings, that I got developed with a guy.)
So why did Ford get into another relationship after breaking up with his girlfriend? He said it all started as “mutual understanding.”
“Actually po talaga, hindi ko siya niligawan, hindi niya ako niligawan. Parang ayun, gusto niya ako, gusto ko rin siya. Parang ganoon po. Parang sobrang close po namin, parang nagkakapalagayan kami ng loob. Parang feeling naming, parang ganoon, parang MU, parang mutual understanding,” Ford reiterated.
(I did not court him. He did not court me. I just like him, he likes me. It was like that. We were so close, we felt we have a mutual understanding.)
Ford’s boyfriend was then asked if he just used the internet sensation to be popular.
“Hindi ko po siya ginagamit kasi alam naman po niya ang ugali ko. Nagsabi na rin po ako sa kanya,” the boyfriend said. (I never used him. That’s not how I am. I already told him that.)
Ford added that his boyfriend is also an influencer like him. He said they respect each other’s work, and that should their relationship go nowhere, they can still be thankful for making memories together. Ford also raised the fact that he really flexes his relationships on social media, which led to the question of why is he hiding his boyfriend’s face.
Ford’s answer ran in circles, as he said, “Actually, talaga, gusto ko talaga ipakita ‘yung mukha niya. Gusto ko from the start ng video na ito ay gusto ko siyang itago kasi ‘yung mga tao, kasi curious sila sa kaibigan ko o sa ano ko.. ako, sa akin, gusto ko siyang ipakita sa lahat ng nanonood.”
(Actually, I want to show his face. I wanted to hide his face at the start of this video because people are curious. But for me, I like to show his face to all those watching.)
That said, Ford’s boyfriend finally decided to show his face by taking his mask off.
“Okay lang po. Handa po ako harapin kung ano ang sasabihin nila,” Ford’s boyfriend answered.
(It’s okay. I am ready to face what people might say.) JB