ChatGPT is sliding into modern relationships as the ultimate third-wheel
From serving up the perfect clapback to planning unforgettable dates, couples are letting ChatGPT navigate their messiest (and sweetest) moments. Sounds like an episode of “Black Mirror,” right? Here are a few ways couples are using ChatGPT in their relationships
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1. AI-assisted arguments
One Reddit user shared a jaw-dropping discovery that her boyfriend had been using ChatGPT during their arguments.
“I was arguing with my boyfriend earlier, then went on my laptop that I borrowed from him because I had an email to send. Come to find out, our ChatGPT history is synced, and I’m literally arguing with ChatGPT,” the user wrote.
She found that he had been feeding their conversations onto the platform, asking ChatGPT what to say, and then sending those responses to her.
2. Breaking up—with AI as a ghostwriter
Perhaps the most devastating story comes from a Reddit user whose boyfriend broke up with them using ChatGPT-written text.
“An hour after seeing each other and saying I love you, he breaks up,” she wrote.
It turned out that the breakup message had been composed by ChatGPT. To make matters worse, she later discovered he had cheated on her with another woman.
“I don’t even know how I could trust words again if they apparently don’t mean anything,” she wrote.
3. AI as modern-day Cupid
Not every use of ChatGPT in relationships is fraught with conflict. On the positive side, couples are also using the tool to spark romance. For those who struggle to express their emotions, ChatGPT becomes a modern-day Cupid—writing heartfelt letters, suggesting personalized anniversary plans, and even brainstorming fun date ideas.
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4. AI as a relationship guru
ChatGPT is also being used as an impromptu relationship coach. Couples looking for advice on how to navigate rough patches often turn to AI for guidance. It provides some valuable insights, especially when emotions are running high, and offers advice on things like setting healthy boundaries or rebuilding trust after a mistake. However, while ChatGPT can certainly help with basic advice, it lacks the emotional depth and human touch that a real relationship expert or therapist can offer.
5. Spotting red flags with AI
ChatGPT is becoming a tool for spotting red flags in relationships. Some people use it to analyze texts or behaviors that make them feel unsettled, asking the AI to highlight concerning patterns, such as manipulative language or signs of gaslighting. By breaking down tone, word choice, and messaging trends, ChatGPT provides insights that might otherwise be overlooked.
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Love in the age of AI
For better or worse, ChatGPT has become an unlikely third party in the modern love story. Whether it’s an aid to better communication or a weapon in arguments, its impact on a relationship depends on how couples choose to use it.
However, no matter how advanced ChatGPT gets, it can never replace the heart of human connection. The emotions, shared moments, and unspoken bonds between two people are things no algorithm can truly replicate.