Most Filipinos ‘very happy’ with their love life, says poll


IN THE NAME OF LOVE Filipinos are known to be romantic people. Proof, mass weddings free to the public are usually held in various parts of the country, meant for “live-in” couples who couldn’t afford the usually expensive ceremony. AFP file photo

MANILA, Philippines—Nearly seven of 10 adult Filipinos (68 percent) would not change religion in the name of love, according to the latest survey by Social Weather Stations.

The fourth quarter survey also showed that 54 percent would follow their “heart” while 45 percent said they would follow their “mind” when it came to love matters, and that the majority of adult Filipinos (59 percent) are “very happy” with their love life.

The survey, done from Dec. 3 to 7, posed the question: “In case you and your loved one do not have the same religion, will you definitely change/likely change/likely not change/definitely not change your religion in the name of love?”

Among the 68 percent who said they would not change their religion, 50 percent answered they would “definitely not change” and 18 percent said they would “likely not change.”

Thirty-one percent were willing to change their religion for love—14 percent said they would “likely change” and 17 percent said they would “definitely change.”

“Unwillingness to change their religion for their loved ones is strong in all religions,” SWS said yesterday, eve of Valentine’s Day.

Men follow their hearts

More Filipino men (56 percent) than women (51 percent) would follow their heart than their mind when it comes to love, SWS also noted.

While 52 percent of younger men aged 18-24 said they would follow their mind rather than their heart, the majority of older men said they were more likely to follow their heart—59 percent among those aged 25-34, 58 percent among those aged 35-44, 58 percent among those aged 45-54, and 54 percent among those aged 55 and older.

“Quite the opposite, following their heart over their mind in matters of love is higher among women aged 54 years old and below,” SWS said.

Fifty-one percent among women aged 45-54, 56 percent among those aged 35-44, 54 percent among those aged 25-34 and 59 percent among those aged 18-24 said they would follow their heart in matters of love.

The noncommissioned survey used face-to-face interviews with 1,200 adults nationwide. It had a margin of error of plus-or-minus 3 percentage points.

Love and faith

Unwillingness to change their religion for love was strongest among Muslims, where 56 percent said they would “definitely not change” and 17 percent said they would “likely not change” their religion for love.

Among Roman Catholics, 50 percent said they would “definitely not change” and 18 percent said they would “likely not change” their religion, compared to 18 percent who would “definitely change” and 14 percent who would “likely change” religion for the sake of love.

SLOW DAY. A flower vendor takes a nap as she waits for customers Sunday, Feb. 12, 2012 at a flower street known as "Dangwa" in Manila, Philippines ahead of Tuesday's Valentine's Day celebration. Filipinos, as in most people all over the world, celebrate Valentine's Day with flowers, chocolates and fine dining. (AP Photo/Bullit Marquez)

Among Protestants, 51 percent would “definitely not change” and 6 percent would “likely not change” their religion for love, while 15 percent would “definitely change” and 24 percent would “likely change.”

Willingness to change their religion in the name of love is slightly higher among Protestants and Catholics, SWS noted.

Married ones

“Following one’s heart rather than mind over matters of love is more prevalent among married Filipinos and those with live-in partners, than those who are single,” the survey also showed.

The majority of those with live-in partners (64 percent) and those who are married (55 percent) said they would follow their heart rather than their mind when it came to love.

On the other hand, the majority of those who are single (52 percent) said they would follow their mind, while 46 percent would follow their heart. Kate Pedroso, Inquirer Research

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  • Anonymous

    Women just follow the men. Men don’t follow their heart, nor their mind….. They follow a totally different thing. If you know what I mean. 

    I used to think that only Filipino men cheat on their wives, until I realized that these Filipino men cheat on their Filipino wives with other Filipino women. And what I really can’t understand is, why a poor woman would cheat on her husband by having an affair with another poor man! Is that being romantic? Or plain stupid? 

    In the Philippines, a man who earns less than P100/day can still have a “kabit”. Explain that to me, please!

    • mark sahaoman

      a poor woman cheating her husband and having an affair with a poor man is stupidity.. she should suffer the grave consequence of her actions.

    • Anonymous

       Does the dog on the street needs money to hump another dog? They are driven by biological urge and have no thought of moral and consequences.

      • Anonymous

        So you liken these people to dogs….Tragic.

    • Anonymous

      I don’t think you can make a general rule that only moneyed men can have kabit.  Adult se xu al relations is more complicated than using P100/day as a measuring stick on who can get a kabit and who cannot.   More likely, the women who are drawn in the relationship that you are wondering about must be the most vulnerable and in need of something other than a P100 such as companionship, love, care, time, laugh and other simple human needs.

      • Anonymous

        But think of it, these “other simple human needs” only lead to complicated troubles — the woman gets pregnant; the man will either leave her or have another mouth to feed. I just hope one day, Pinoy women will wake up and not add to their burden by letting themselves get involved with married men who will only make their life worse. 

      • Anonymous

        Kabit system is a sin as old as man.  Commandment #10 makes it a mortal sin to covet thy neighbor’s “wife” (and probably applies to the other gender too) and you’d think that would stop the sin once and for all.  Nope, it’s human nature and in that sense, it’s not only the poor pinoys doing it but certainly poor people in other countries too.  

        Marriage is a phase in life that not all of those in it are enjoying the ride.  “When love is new, and the world is out reaching for you”, says Air Supply. Truly, one would feel it’s the right one and get married.  Some would realize it was a mistake.  Some felt stuck and unhappy. 

  • Anonymous

    sowhatifimfilipino: you said.”In the Philippines, a man who earns less than P100/day can still have a “kabit”. Explain that to me, please!”.

    Please read your statement again and you will find the answer to your question. Got it? If not, here it is:

    One can have sex with a “kabit” for free unlike with a girl “for hire”, (you know whom I mean), who will charge per “ride”. With a kabit, it is like “eat all you can” for free although, of course, you need to cough up some pesos once in awhile; with a “pro” (fill in the blanks), it is like “pay per view”, you pay each time you “view and something else”.

    • Anonymous

      Mangtom, what I was trying to drive at was: how women could allow themselves to get involved with a poor married man who cannot even afford to better his own life. I can understand how a woman would allow herself to become a mistress of a rich man (perhaps to fulfill her own dream or help her family) but to become a mistress of a poor man who can barely feed himself — WHY, OH WHY????? And don’t tell me it’s LOVE! 

      • mark sahaoman

        because of companionship but this kind of relationship is short time. not all women/men are intellectual right? and some guys make advantage if there are girls out there who are “bobo”. sorry for that.

  • Anonymous

    sowhatifimfilipino: I see what you mean. Love-struck people do what they don’t do under ordinary circumstances.

  • mark sahaoman

    this is the right thing to do.. for live in couples to get married. why go to church and attend mass every sunday then you are not following church law by engaging in premarital affairs?

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