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Why you shouldn’t be afraid to do things alone

It’s actually a step toward knowing who you are
07:36 AM February 02, 2019

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There’s a notion that a person always needs a companion to do the things he or she wants, and that you are lonely and friendless if you do things on your own.


People put labels on you that don’t even make sense. They find you “weird” if you watch a movie alone, or a “loner” if you travel alone.

It doesn’t end there. There’s a long list which gets longer over the years. Society conforms to such notions.


Who says you can’t find joy and contentment in your own company? But you don’t have to be afraid to do things alone, fearful of what others say.

Know yourself

Devoting alone time to yourself is actually a step toward knowing who you are. You’re able to know yourself if you start making decisions on your own and without letting anyone else affect you. Of course, this comes with great responsibility.

Point is, these days, there are a lot of trends and “influencers” that draw one’s attention. So you get into a cycle of following a trend without really determining if that’s what you really want. No one wants to end up in that pit and that’s why it’s good to know yourself.


Choosing to do things all by yourself also indicates that you’re practicing independence—whether it’s a decision to start living on your own or to break free from a toxic relationship.

Everyone will go through a phase or a crossroads in which decisions will determine one’s course in life. No matter how eager or reluctant you are for that moment to come, it soon will.


At some point, reality will hit you with the thought that you can’t always rely on someone else. It’s never an effortless process to prepare yourself for that, but taking a step toward it is a start.

Cultural barriers, personal preferences and other factors make people different. Sooner or later, you’re bound to realize that the stereotypes imposed by society don’t work for everyone.

If you want to be alone and do things on your own, don’t be afraid to. Do what makes you you happy and don’t hesitate just because of what others have to say.

As long as you’re not hurting anyone, give in to your wants because that is the only way you’ll find contentment within you. —CONTRIBUTED

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