Emily’s Post

Dear Emily,

I was a newly married, 22-year-old English graduate when I started working in this public relations agency. I thought it was a good learning ground before I applied in a newspaper or magazine.

Three years into it, someone showed my work to the boss and he apparently liked what I wrote. Soon I was having assignments directly from him, and I became part of the group working on big projects. I rose quickly from the ranks and got very friendly with him.

We became lovers when we went abroad for a huge project over 25 years ago. My husband and I separated 10 years into our marriage when I became more successful in my work. We had one son.

My lover’s wife, who is a very nice woman, gave no inkling if she knew about my relationship with him. She just considered me as her husband’s go-to person in the office. I’ve been very discreet, and have always stayed in the background all the time. I promised him from the outset that I would never ever cause problems for him, whatever happened. He, in turn, made my life very comfortable beyond my dreams, and happy, too.

He had already retired from the company but retained his senior position when his wife died suddenly. I maintained my distance and just waited for him to come back to me. I waited a reasonable time before I called him and found out he had changed his numbers.

I heard he took his wife’s death very hard and had to move to his daughter’s house to be cared for. Our relationship was such a tight secret that only two people knew of it. I only get bits of news about him now concerning his health. I want to visit him or talk to him, but won’t because of the promise I made. I love him very much and would gladly take care of him.

Secret Girlfriend

Your love affair has ended and you just have to accept it. His nonaction screamed more loudly than what a few words could ever whisper. That part of his life has come to its screeching halt when his wife died. It jolted him to his core and clearly disoriented him to the hilt.

He’s possibly having extreme remorse for the things he did while she was alive, and all the happiness he had with you are now just lumps of dust with no memory of happiness to uplift his spirit. She unknowingly sucked them all away and are now buried with her in her grave.

Storm him with thoughts of joy and love and see how strong your telepathy would reach him. These good and positive vibes may affect him inexplicably and boost his grieving spirit somehow—if not to come back to you, then to live life again. You never know.

Keep on loving him as you’ve faithfully done all these years. Fate is fair, however dismal you feel now.

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