WASHINGTON — Dante Bucci is a 22-year-old marketing student who lives in one of Washington’s most hip neighborhoods. The New Jersey native is clean cut, well dressed and well spoken.
I am an only daughter with three brothers, and it was very traumatic for my family when I got pregnant in high school by a boy from a poor family. They lamented that I threw away my future. I was sent to relatives in the north to give birth.
I was in a toxic relationship with a boyfriend for a little over 15 years. I met him in a party and our chemistry was instant. But, after the passion cooled off, his true colors came out. He was a drunk, womanizer, a creep, such that I prayed every moment to be rid of him. Fifteen years later, my prayers were answered. He fell for another. My wallet and I couldn’t believe we were freed of that monster. From then, it was liberating not to hear 747-sounding snores, or worry about other women giving me STDs.
My husband and I went abroad as United States immigrants right after college. I became an officer in a bank, while he worked for an international organization. Except for our being childless, life was good to us. We lived in a nice part of the city, entertained and traveled a lot. We also had a live-in househelp for decades—a privilege that came with my husband’s job. She was the daughter of the maid of my in-laws’ family in the province, who worked for them for 59 years until she died.
Dear Emily, My 35-year-old daughter is on a downward spiral after her boyfriend of 12 years abandoned her for a new woman he met at work. He was her